Detachment Towards Transcendence

The problem of dealing with a difficult relative has been met and overcome in this life.

This donkey has been "blessed" by a very difficult and challenging relative with a decided "superiority" complex. What worked here might not work in your case, but it will be shared, just in case that it might help:

It was soon discovered that the relative was not the problem. And she was simply not going to change. She had a superiorism set in mental concrete. Finally, after much thought and concern, it was realized that she was a "teacher of detachment." This, btw, is a lesson that we often would rather not learn.

It was realized at some point that the only "solution" was to grow into the place where it simply did not matter what she did, said, or thought. This was the only path to peace. For she had a strong knack for always doing the "wrong" thing, making the wrong reactions, usually unthinkingly and petulantly.

It finally dawned that this behavior hurt only because I allowed myself to view it as very important. I realized, gradually, that the actions of one tiny person in this galaxy were not at all important to the galactic Self. This moved me towards the mystical state of detachment called "transcendence." The beautiful techniques of the trm and Teflonmind were used regularly.

I knew that the challenge was this: Grow into independence, detachment, and transcendence. In that elevated altered state, the actions/behaviors of this difficult lady would not matter more than those of any stranger. I really did not care how a stranger behaved, as it was none of my business. But I had to realize that this lady's actions were also none of my business. She was an adult, with her own brain. I needed to simply let go. I needed to grow to the point where her actions did not matter.

This sounds, on the surface, like a withdrawal of Love. But closer examination will demonstrate that it is not. You simply cannot love anyone if her every move seems "critically important" to you. Only with a modicum of detachment is Love even possible. You cannot love a person who has a strangle-hold on your heart. First, unlock your heart.

Experience has shown that pisces-moon people are almost incomprehensible to others. They can be very moody. And the closer that you get to them, the worse the challenges become. Of course, this is just a generalization, and might not apply to any one person in particular. So, a little distance, combined with a deliberate, conscious effort to detach, seems to be your wisest course.

The difficult person will not change. This implies that you must.