Selfimage and Dreams

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In interpreting a dream, you must ask yourself the following question: "What is the first quality that pops into mind when thinking about this person (who appeared in the dream)?" He/she represents that quality in our personality. Cultivating this quality enriches you spiritually ("he handed me some money").

Then, you must ask the same question about the other character in your dream: "What is the most obvious quality that pops into my head, the first one, when I think of the one who was in the dream?" For this person represents that quality. That quality is taxing your energies ("asking for something expensive"). It is a drain on your energy, so you
want to identify it, and manage it, trying to minimize it, or even delete it.

Your mind is reminding you not to depend upon others. Much of your dependency, represented in your dream by your husband, is gone now. You have recovered. ("no longer living"). And that is good news!

The parts of your personality are beginning to integrate in peace, harmony, and even selflove. ["became very loving and compassionate with Carol (pseudonym)"]. You next write, "I was feeling good in the dream." The reason that you were feeling so good is that emotional and spiritual healing was occurring. And the natural state of the spiritual mind is bliss. At times, life allows us to tap into this bliss, or approach it.

Yes, it is a terrible shame, and it highlights the backwardness and primitivity of our minds, but people are often "judged" by their clothes. People live lives of quiet terror; they are always afraid that some young kid wants to join a gang and attack them. While this is understandable, people should think before they speak. And they should spend much time before evaluating strangers as "gang-members." For that quick judgment is both foolish and dangerous.

You did exactly the right thing, the honest path, when you called the man... to get his side. It is always better to get such information from the source than from others. Now, you must teach your kids never to evaluate themselves, or their worth/value, on what others say or think. For others can be, not only shallow, but downright foolish. When we try
to evaluate our worth, we do not use the opinions of others. Instead, we compare our behaviors with the highest standards of Love (compassion).

Teach them that it is a part of our emotional and spiritual growth to live among people who are shallow, frightened, and foolish. These people are mirrors so that we can check ourselves for those same negative qualities.
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